Life is full of surprises. Not all of them are pleasant mouth gaping make you want to jump for joy and clap like a seal kind of surprise. Some of these surprises will make you run for your very life screaming for help and trip over something that is not there. The thing is, are all of them worth the stress? The worry? The anguish? No, no they are not. So here I put together a list of phobias and how to get over them. It will not be an easy task for some of you. I know. It was not easy for me. I used to be scared of the dark, scared of heights, and spiders. Now, not so much, but don’t let me catch one!
1. Teratophobia – The fear of monsters. Children are especially prone to being scared of monsters. They are young and their imagination runs full blast. They easily believe things. Some, not all. Those that are in authority of the child may use scare tactics to get them to obey when all else fails. Usually it will work. The thing about that is, they may be scared for a long time and it may lead up to adulthood. So how to overcome this?
- Check the place for monsters. No monsters there? No worries! A parent or a friend can check and you can tag along with them to be certain. Make sure it’s dark because that’s when you’re usually scared of them.
- Draw your own monsters and have a story to go along with it (optional). This worked for me. I would draw the cutest little fuzz balls haha! Some were scary too…Now you have your own monsters to battle off the ones that are scaring you.
- Imagine the monster in your head and have a conversation with it. Maybe you two will come to an understanding or you may just battle it out, but remember, you are only as strong as you imagine yourself to be.
2. Arachnophobia – The fear of spiders. Spiders are apart of the arachnida group with ticks and scorpions. They have 8 legs and 8 eyes. They have hair. All of this can make them look really scary, but should you judge them by looks? Some of them yes you should but most spiders cannot even bite through your skin. The ones that can have venom that is harmless. Watch out for the brown recluse and the black widow though, but what are the chances of you seeing one of those? Here are ways to stop being afraid of spiders.
- Try not to scream, jump, or run around when you see one. It only makes things worse. Stay calm. What good will any of that do you but make you even more frantic than you already are.
- Analyze the spider. Look at it’s glorious design. Can you produce a magnificent web like this creature? Do you have 8 eyes and legs? You wish you were a spider, don’t you?
- Be the one to kill or capture it. The more you do it, the braver you will be. You can do it! The poor fella may have just thought your spot was the perfect place to live. I’d take that as a compliment but kindly let em know that it’s your territory.
3. Mysophobia – The fear of germs. Germs are everywhere. There is no avoiding it. It can get passed from an item to you, from person to person, or it can be airborne and transferred like that. Those that fear germs probably have gotten very sick because of it or they’re just a very picky person. Ways to get over it.
- Cook. The more you cook, the more you will realize that nitpicking over every little thing is not necessary and can be a waste of time. Especially when you are under pressure.
- Keep yourself healthy. The healthier you are, the more immune you are to germs. So get some fresh air, exercise, and eat and drink good.
- Be clean. The cleaner you keep yourself and your surroundings, the less you have to worry about germs. Don’t let it rule your life though. It can then affect your social life therefore affecting your mental health because every time a friend come over you wrap them up in plastic and have them wear a gas mask.
- Be grateful. Some people don’t have the luxury of cleaning all the time. They may have to eat food from the trash, wear clothes for days without washing, or sleep in a crowded place. Yet, they may be way happier than you.
4. Acrophobia – The fear of heights. Skyscrapers, cliffs, amusement park rides, airplanes. These are all things that can be very high up in the air. So high up that if you fall off or out of them, you’d die. I used to be afraid of being near the edge of things that are high up in the air and for good reason. I would always think about tipping over the edge as if there was something down there alluring me to peek into its very depths. Here are ways to overcome it.
- Enjoy the view. What is being scared going to do for you but ruin the experience? Just be wary, you don’t want to be oblivious to the fact that you’re standing on an edge.
- Make sure you are safe. If the building is sturdy, the ride is well built, and the rocks on the cliff aren’t loose, then being safe is one less thing you have to worry about.
- Trust yourself and the people with you. They aren’t going to push you over the edge and you’re smart enough to not be near it, problem solved.
- Have fun. Instead of screaming the eardrums off the person next to you on that roller coaster ride, laugh! It will make you feel way better. That adrenaline rush that you get? It’s a good feeling, almost addicting.
5. Cherophobia – The fear of being happy. This is more common than you think. How many people have you heard say don’t get too happy, because you might get disappointed. A lot. Some people take this to heart. They are always waiting for disappointment to come and then when it does come, they say they “knew it.” The one you love breaks their promise, and the one you trust lies to you. Can you ever let yourself be truly happy without a doubt in your mind? In peace? Yes, you can. Here are ways to be happy again.
- Accept the fact that not everyone will live up to your standards. Sometimes, not even you.
- Know that people make mistakes. Learn from them, and keep on moving. Try to laugh it off instead of being embarrassed.
- Believe in yourself. Happiness, success, and confidence goes hand in hand. Learning these three things will make you a happy person.
- Look at how things are connected. Make a graph if you want to. Things happen for a reason, whether it be good or bad, know that the outcome is always good.
6. Anthropophobia – The fear of people. You fear what they think of you. You fear what they can do to you. You’re always worrying that someone is out to get you. Is this a way to live? To not speak what’s on your mind? I don’t think so. There are times where you should be quiet, and there are times where you should express yourself. Here is how to overcome this:
- Work on your communication skills and on building confidence. Learning to trust yourself will help you tremendously.
- Pick up a new hobby. Try voice acting, dancing, and/or yoga. Finding common interests among others will help you to be more connected with people.
- Know that people can’t read your mind and you can’t read theirs. Even if this was possible, you’d never know because as far as I know, no one has been known to do this.
- Know that people will judge you no matter what. They may like your style or they may not but that doesn’t matter as long as YOU like your style.
- Learn self defense. If anyone tries to hurt you, you know what to do!
7. Astraphobia – The fear of thunderstorms. Dark clouds are rolling in the distance and they are heading your way. Seems like a thunderstorm is brewing, uh oh. Lightening zig zags across the sky in time with the booming thunder. In some households, all of the lights go off and you sit there in silence until it is over. It can sound and look pretty scary but here are some ways to not be afraid.
- Blast some music. If all you can hear is music, then you’re not hearing the storm.
- The chances of you being struck by lightening are pretty slim, but to be safe, stay away from things that conduct electricity, be careful around electrical sockets and appliances, and stay inside away from trees or anything that can possibly hurt you.
- Do things to distract yourself. Play board games with the family, talk on the phone with a friend, draw, or read. This would also be the perfect time for storytelling or a nice setting to watch a horror film.
- Watch the thunderstorm. It can be fascinating actually. Speculate on it. What could be the subjective reason it is happening?
8. Nyctophobia – The fear of the dark. The dark is a place of mystery. It is never ending and full of depth. Your imagination can run rampant and the only thing that can stop it is you. The light bill is sky high because you’re scared to turn off the lights and you let the TV run throughout the night so that you don’t hear the floorboard creak. Well have no fear, solutions are here down below.
- Start off slow. Leave the hall light on or lamp with the door open. Close the door more each night until it’s closed with just the light seeping under the door. When you’re comfortable with that, turn the hall light off. You can have a night light or use a cellular device or tablet for light so you won’t be in total darkness. Set it so that it goes off by the time you’re sleep.
- Play some soothing music. Note that being in silence can be beneficial. During the day it can be really noisy and hectic and your brain is taking in so many things. During the night it’s quieter, therefore you can think more clearly and take in the beautiful silence. When’s the last time you heard the night symphony of the crickets eh?
- Think of pleasant things such as flowers, cute animals, and/or a funny memory. Think of all of your favorite things.
- Be with someone. What’s better than being in the dark by yourself than being with another person?
- Cuddle with something. Having a stuffed animal there to fight off the scary things will leave you and your child safe and with ease. Imagine the stuffed animal as invincible and unstoppable.
9. Thanatophobia – The fear of death. Does anybody truly knows what happens after we die? There are many theories out there. You may go to Heaven or Hell, end up in space, on another planet, reincarnate, be nonexistent, go to a parallel universe, or live in your own fantasy world. Who knows. People are preparing themselves for death. They have bucket lists, living by motto’s such as “you only live once” (YOLO) and “viva la vida”, and are telling other people what to do because “the end” is coming, however, there are people that are afraid to die because of the very fact that they don’t know what’s going to happen. Also, they may not be ready. Well here’s some ways to get over it.
- Do the things you love. If you do the things you love, you’ll be a happy person. If you’re a happy person, you’re a successful person. Since being successful and happy is basically everyone’s goal, you’re basically ready to die.
- Contemplate the unknown. The more you ponder, the more you’ll find out that there’s a lot of mysteries out there and not all of them are solved.
- Know that you’re not alone. You’re not the only one or thing that’s going to die. Think of the seasons. Think of the water cycle. There is a beginning and end to things, but the end doesn’t always mean the end. Sometimes, it’s just the beginning of something new.
- “Think in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration.” – Nikola Tesla. This may solve a lot of your problems.
10. Glossophobia – The fear of performing. Have you ever had to get up in front of your class and talk about a project? Or sing a solo at a concert? What about giving a speech at a meeting? All of these things can give you a tad bit of anxiety and stress you out. How do you not stutter? How can I stop worrying if someone will laugh at me? Look below for some suggestions.
- Practice what you’re going to perform. The more you practice, the less you’ll worry about making a mistake. Practice with notes and without them. Sometimes your mind freezes when it’s time to perform. You then have to come up with something to say but luckily for you, you know what you have to talk about, so therefore, choose a starting point, and go from there.
- Take your time. If you try to rush, things may not come out as smoothly.
- Make sure you can be heard. Speak louder than normal. There’s nothing more embarrassing than people telling you to speak up because they can’t hear you.
- Work on your confidence. Stand tall, speak strong, act like you know what you’re doing and saying even though you may not, and look nice.
- Look just over the heads of people. Making eye contact though will help you to become more connected with the audience and have them listen to what you have to say. Walk around some, use hand gestures, and use appropriate facial expressions.
- Smile! Try to enjoy yourself. When people see that, they will enjoy themselves also!
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope it has helped. If you have anything else to add, feel free to comment below! Don’t forget to share!